Weddings ~ (Re-)Commitment Ceremonies ~ Marking Special Anniversaries
"Your presence and attention to so many ritual moments we might have missed made our wedding ceremony so much more meaningful. Far more than being an "officiant" on our wedding day, you helped us (long before our wedding) to consider the values and desires at the core of our relationship. You honored both of our religious traditions and family customs and worked with us to incorporate these into our ceremony. Because of your guidance and attention, our wedding felt sacred and the process you took us through helps us as our relationship grows and our circumstances change. We feel like we can turn to you as a valued confidante and friend. Thank you."
When two people choose to commit to a loving partnership, many of us wish to honor that with ritual. A wedding is both a ceremony and a sacred process. Designed to acknowledge the status change from two independent individuals to a wedded couple and sacred partnership, a wedding recognizes the individual, communal, and legal transformation that is activated by the ritual of commitment to one another.
Rather than "officiate" at a wedding ceremony, merely uttering a formulary of words and placing the names of the couple within that context, I see my role as that of pastoral guide, co-creator, and ritual conductor — a marriage doula — ensuring a meaningful transition from "engaged" to "married," and creating and protecting sacred space for the beloveds on their wedding day. The religious, cultural, spiritual, intellectual and familial needs of each of the beloveds drive the creation of an appropriate ritual for acknowledging and celebrating the status transformation of a wedding. Furthermore, the community that gathers on the wedding day are not spectators; they are active witnesses to this transformative process and supporters of the marriage that follows. I am available to couples both before and after their wedding day, offering spiritual nourishment and guidance as desired.
Couples who work with me spend time thinking critically and with open hearts about issues that will undoubtedly arise in the context of their marriage. These conversations may occur with me or with a counselor or therapist and are an integral part of my work with couples who seek my presence on their wedding day.